I discovered this after my first lecture in 2006…which happened to be my worst one ever. It was a total disaster!!
I found a great coach who agreed I needed help.
Her first step? A stone!
Written on the stone were the words, “IT’S NOT ABOUT ME.”
She put the stone in my hand and told me to carry it every time I spoke to an audience. It’s a subtle reminder that the key to connecting isn’t what I’m thinking or projecting on a screen, but identifying what’s in the hearts of those who are listening.
One trick is to remind yourself to be interested rather than interesting.
If you focus more on the what’s important to others , you will find you’re more able to make successful connections (and less likely to suffer a disaster like my first lecture!)